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Talking to your child about drugs and alcohol can seem scary and make you uncomfortable.  Trust us, they are just as scared but also curious, and the info you will want them to have should come from you, not an internet search or friends who might guess or learn from what they hear on the radio, movies or internet, themselves. 


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How to talk to your child about drugs -

1. Don't panic – but be honest. Tell them this is difficult for you too but, it is important because they are important to you.

2. Do your homework about drugs but know that you do not need to know everything and it is always okay to say, “You can find that out and get back to them.”  This also leaves the door open for a future conversation. Please visit for updated resources and links to national, science-based, accurate information.

3. Pick a good time - Don't try to talk to your child about drugs before they rush off to school, for example. Or, if they're using drugs, don’t confront them when they're high.  It may help to do it when the subject comes up during TV, a movie, or in the news. Mealtimes can also be a good time for chatting.  It's often easier to have a conversation side-by-side, such as when you're driving in the car, washing up together or preparing food.

4. Let them know your values - It's important for your children to know where you stand on drug use and alcohol.  Be clear about your reasons why – you might have a family member who struggles with addiction or know a friend who has issues with a child experimenting or using. Having rules and expectations are a very good thing.

5. Avoid scare tactics – they don’t work and most likely your teens may know someone who is already using. Being clear about the dangers of drugs and alcohol and the impact on their brain development and health is what can be most important.

6. Know your child's friends - Get to know your child's friends. Invite them to the house and take an interest in what’s going on in their lives. You are another trusted adult who will be important for your child and their friend.

7. Let them know you're always there to listen and not judge. Kids have a lot going on and might be concerned about a friend. If they open up about this you need to know you value them trusting you and will be there to support them.

9. Don't give up. Again, it might not be easy but it is important, even if they don’t warm up to the conversation the first time they might the next as you are building trust.

10. Let them be responsible for their actions - You're trying to help your child make good choices in life about drugs. But only they can say no to drugs. Make sure they know you support them, but it's up to them to make positive decisions.

The goal is for children to never experiment with drugs or alcohol. The main reason being that one in ten people who try alcohol or other drugs won’t be able to just walk away. The longer a child can delay experimenting with substances the better their chances of never having an issue

Help for your child
If your child is using drugs and you are worried use your local resources or

Support for yourself - parenting can be an adventure and sometimes a challenge. You are not alone and it is important to talk with other parents or community resources. This is a topic that all parents and youth face. Going through it together with communication and support lightens the load.

Here is a copy of our Raymond Coalition For Youth Community Resources Guide. This information is updated annually to ensure it is accurate and correct. Please feel free to share this guide electronically, or make copies to share. If you would like hard copies for your location please contact our office and we can bring some by. 

4 powerful questions that will help your child thrive right now

Know parent tips – How to fight teen depression

As a parent or other caregiver, do you feel confident you would know if your child was experiencing depression? And if your child was, would you know what to do?
It is important to know that teen depression presents itself differently than adult depression in several ways. In the previous tip, Know! The Red Flags of Teen Depression, we provided tips for talking with your teen on the subject, and shared the signs and symptoms of depression, specific to teens, so that parents are better armed to recognize even subtle hints. Read and learn more here: (with these tips from HelpGuide: Parent’s Guide to Teen Depression).

Helpful Links:

Talk: They Hear You, from SAMHSA

SAMHSA’s “Talk. They Hear You.” app is available on desktop computers and on the go from the App StoreSM ,Google Play™the Windows® Store, and Windows®Phone Store.

Talking to Kids About Alcohol and Other Drugs: 5 Conversation Goals:

How to talk to your kids about Vaping: 


Why Adults Matter - FCD Prevention Source e-Journal

Parents Are Cutting Off Their Opioid-Addicted Kids — and It's the Toughest Decision of Their Lives

10 Things You Need to Know if You’re the Parent of an Addict

More Resources:

Families First: Support for care for all

Holding various support groups in the Seabrook/Portsmouth areas. Click on this picture for more information:

Family Support Groups in New Hampshire,
Provided by Granite Pathways(click on image for full document)
Contact Lynn Fuller, Family Support Coordinator for the state of New Hampshire, with questions, or to start a support group in your area:

How do you really keep your kids safe from addiction?  90% of Americans with a substance use disorder began using substances before the age of 18. Visit the Addiction Policy Forum's Prevention Tips for Parents web page

Ask, Listen, Learn: Kids & Alcohol Don't Mix 





Take a look at this great information and tips for parents and families from the "Ask, Listen, Learn: Kids and Alcohol Don't Mix program"
A Substance Abuse Guide for Parents from
  • Parenting to Prevent Childhood Alcohol Use:
    Parenting to Prevent Childhood Alcohol Use:

    Drinking alcohol undoubtedly is a part of American culture, as are conversations between parents and children about its risks and potential benefits. However, information about alcohol can seem contradictory. Alcohol affects people differently at different stages of life—small amounts may have health benefits for certain adults, but for children and adolescents, alcohol can interfere with normal brain development. Alcohol’s differing effects and parents’ changing role in their children’s lives as they mature and seek greater independence can make talking about alcohol a challenge. Parents may have trouble setting concrete family policies for alcohol use. And they may find it difficult to communicate with children and adolescents about alcohol­-related issues.

  • Prescription Drugs - Abuse and Addiction:
    Prescription Drugs - Abuse and Addiction:

    Prescription drug abuse is the use of a medication without a prescription, in a way other than as prescribed, or for the experience or feelings elicited. According to several national surveys, prescription medications, such as those used to treat pain, attention deficit disorders, and anxiety, are being abused at a rate second only to marijuana among illicit drug users. The consequences of this abuse have been steadily worsening, reflected in increased treatment admissions, emergency room visits, and overdose deaths.

  • We hope this Research Report will help readers understand the harmful effects of tobacco use and identify best practices for the prevention and treatment of tobacco addiction.

  • E-Cigarettes & Vaping:

    E-Cigarette Use Among Youth and Young Adults - Fact Sheet from a report of the Surgeon General, December 2016.

    Know the Risks: E-Cigarettes & Young People: Visit the U.S. Surgeon General's interactive website, updated December 2016.

  • Marijuana Facts Parents Need To Know:
    Marijuana Facts Parents Need To Know:

    The human brain does not fully mature until the early twenties. Among the last areas to develop are those that govern impulse control and planning. So what might that mean for teens? On one hand, they may be more adventurous than adults, willing to take chances…on the other, this could involve risky behaviors, including drug use. The trick is to find ways to encourage your kids to be the unique individuals they are, without exposing themselves to the dangers of experimenting with drugs - including marijuana. Talking openly about it is a good start.

  • David Patterson, who works with the ACLS Training Center, has written this article about the effects of illegal drug use on the heart.


The Raymond School District is offering free emergency breakfast & lunch meals to K-12 students in our community during school's closure due to COVID-19:


Families First: Support for care for all, (603) 422-8208

Parenting in Recovery: While you're trying to figure out your new normal at home, it is important to find distractions for yourself and your children. 


Seacoast Grandparents Recharge Group

Step Up Parents - Step Up Parents provides financial assistance to kinship caregivers in New Hampshire who are raising the children of parents with substance use disorder.

Here are two links to two brochures for possible financial and other support services:    

This is a respite resource for grandparents who just need a little break and can possibly help with childcare:

The Raymond Coalition For Youth believes that ALL adults have the power to make a difference in the lives of our young people. To support this vision the Coalition has purchased multiple copies of Parent, Teacher, Mentor, Friend - by Peter L. Benson, PH.D.

These books are FREE for adults in the community who are looking to learn more about how simple it can actually be to make a difference in young person’s life. Male or Female, Old or Young, Rich or Poor, we are all responsible for the children our culture is raising. If you are interested in reading the book please contact our office, if you love it – please pass it along to a friend so others can learn about how easy it is, if you are not a fan and captivated from the start – please return to our office so we can share it with someone else.