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Talking to your child about drugs and alcohol can seem scary and make you feel uncomfortable.  Trust us they are just as scared but also curious, and the info you will want them to have should come from you, not an internet search or from friends who might be guessing or sharing what they learned on the radio, movies or internet, themselves. 

This page is designed to help with the discuss.  It is full of tested sites that have valuable information and ideas.  This is not a one size fits all, how you communicate and interact with your child may be very different that how your parents taught you about these things, if they ever even did?  Or how your friends and neighbors talk with their kids, again, if they even do.  You have taken a step to make a difference and we want to help.  We hope you find the information helpful.  


How to talk to your child about drugs -

1. Don't panic – but be honest. Tell them this is difficult for you too but it is important because they are important to you.

2. Do your homework about drugs but know that you do not need to know everything and it is always okay to say, “You can find that out and get back to them.”  This also leaves the door open for a future conversation. 

3. Pick a good time -  It may help to touch upon it when the subject comes up watching TV, a movie, or in the news. Mealtimes can also be a good time.  It's often easier to have a conversation side-by-side, such as when you're driving in the car, washing up together or preparing food if direct eye contact is difficult or awkward  

4. Let them know your values - It's important for your children to know where you stand on drug use and alcohol.  Do you support waiting till you are 21 to drink, the law is on your side on this one.  Be clear about your reasons why – you might have a family member who struggles with addiction, substance misuse might have negatively impacted you or your family, you might have a connection to disease or even death from substance misuse.  

5. Avoid scare tactics – they don’t work and most likely your teens may know someone who is already using. Being clear about the dangers of drugs and alcohol and the impact on their brain development and health is the most important information to share.

6. Know your child's friends - Get to know your child's friends. Invite them to the house and take an interest in what’s going on in their lives. You are a trusted adult who is important to both your child and their friend.

7. Let them know you're always there to listen and not judge. Kids have a lot going on and might be concerned about a friend. If they open up to you about this you need to let them know you value them trusting you and that you are there to support them.

9. Don't give up. It might not be easy but it is important, even if they don’t warm up to the conversation the first time they might the next.  Each time you are building trust.

10. Let them be responsible for their actions - You're trying to help your child make good choices in life about drugs. But only they can say no to drugs. Make sure they know you support them, but it's up to them to make the right choice.

The goal is for children to never experiment with drugs or alcohol. The main reason being that one in ten people who try alcohol or other drugs won’t be able to just walk away. The longer a child can delay experimenting with substances the better their chances of never having an issue

Help for your child
If your child is using drugs and you are worried use your local resources www.rcfy.org or samsha.org.

Support for yourself - parenting can be an adventure and sometimes a challenge. You are not alone and it is important to talk with other parents or community resources. This is a topic that all parents and youth face. Going through it together with communication and support lightens the load.
 
4 powerful questions that will help your child thrive right now

4 powerful questions that will help your child thrive right now


Helpful Links:

Talk: They Hear You, from SAMHSA is full of great tips and resources.

SAMHSA’s “Talk. They Hear You.” app is available on desktop computers and on the go from the App StoreSM ,Google Play™the Windows® Store, and Windows®Phone Store.

Articles:

Why Adults Matter - FCD Prevention Source e-Journal

Parents Are Cutting Off Their Opioid-Addicted Kids — and It's the Toughest Decision of Their Lives

More Resources:

Families First: Support for families...health care for all

Holding various support groups in the Seabrook/Portsmouth areas. Click on this picture for more information:


How do you really keep your kids safe from addiction?  90% of Americans with a substance use disorder began using substances before the age of 18. Visit the Addiction Policy Forum's Prevention Tips for Parents web page


Ask, Listen, Learn: Kids & Alcohol Don't Mix 

 

 

 

 

Take a look at this great information and tips for parents and families from the "Ask, Listen, Learn: Kids and Alcohol Don't Mix program"
 
A Substance Abuse Guide for Parents from
  • Parenting to Prevent Childhood Alcohol Use:
    Parenting to Prevent Childhood Alcohol Use:

    Drinking alcohol undoubtedly is a part of American culture, as are conversations between parents and children about its risks and potential benefits. However, information about alcohol can seem contradictory. Alcohol affects people differently at different stages of life—small amounts may have health benefits for certain adults, but for children and adolescents, alcohol can interfere with normal brain development. Alcohol’s differing effects and parents’ changing role in their children’s lives as they mature and seek greater independence can make talking about alcohol a challenge. Parents may have trouble setting concrete family policies for alcohol use. And they may find it difficult to communicate with children and adolescents about alcohol­-related issues.

  • Prescription Drugs - Abuse and Addiction:
    Prescription Drugs - Abuse and Addiction:

    Prescription drug abuse is the use of a medication without a prescription, in a way other than as prescribed, or for the experience or feelings elicited. According to several national surveys, prescription medications, such as those used to treat pain, attention deficit disorders, and anxiety, are being abused at a rate second only to marijuana among illicit drug users. The consequences of this abuse have been steadily worsening, reflected in increased treatment admissions, emergency room visits, and overdose deaths.

  • We hope this Research Report will help readers understand the harmful effects of tobacco use and identify best practices for the prevention and treatment of tobacco addiction.

  • E-Cigarettes & Vaping:

    E-Cigarette Use Among Youth and Young Adults - Fact Sheet from a report of the Surgeon General, December 2016.

    Know the Risks: E-Cigarettes & Young People: Visit the U.S. Surgeon General's interactive website, updated December 2016.

  • Marijuana Facts Parents Need To Know:
    Marijuana Facts Parents Need To Know:

    The human brain does not fully mature until the early twenties. Among the last areas to develop are those that govern impulse control and planning. So what might that mean for teens? On one hand, they may be more adventurous than adults, willing to take chances…on the other, this could involve risky behaviors, including drug use. The trick is to find ways to encourage your kids to be the unique individuals they are, without exposing themselves to the dangers of experimenting with drugs - including marijuana. Talking openly about it is a good start.

  • David Patterson, who works with the ACLS Training Center, has written this article about the effects of illegal drug use on the heart.


ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

PARENT RESOURCES:

Families First: Support for families...health care for all, (603) 422-8208

Parenting in Recovery: While you're trying to figure out your new normal at home, it is important to find distractions for yourself and your children. 

GRANDPARENT RESOURCES: 

Seacoast Grandparents Recharge Group

Step Up Parents - Step Up Parents provides financial assistance to kinship caregivers in New Hampshire who are raising the children of parents with substance use disorder.

Here are two links to two brochures for possible financial and other support services:

https://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dfa/documents/village.pdf

https://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dfa/grandparent-resources/documents/grandfamilies.pdf    

This is a respite resource for grandparents who just need a little break and can possibly help with childcare:  https://www.nhcarepath.dhhs.nh.gov/partner-resources/documents/grandparent-handout.pdf


The Raymond Coalition For Youth believes that ALL adults have the power to make a difference in the lives of our young people. To support this vision the Coalition has purchased multiple copies of Parent, Teacher, Mentor, Friend - by Peter L. Benson, PH.D.

These books are FREE for adults in the community who are looking to learn more about how simple it can actually be to make a difference in young person’s life. Male or Female, Old or Young, Rich or Poor, we are all responsible for the children our culture is raising. If you are interested in reading the book please contact our office, if you love it – please pass it along to a friend so others can learn about how easy it is, if you are not a fan and captivated from the start – please return to our office so we can share it with someone else.